I'm struggling with a concept. I understand that we are all individuals, and that while we can influence people for good or bad, we cannot change them. We should not judge them because we do not know all of the facts, their motivations, intentions, and we have not walked in their shoes. So in this life, we can develop compassion for others, offering assistance where we are able, but our primary responsibility is for ourselves, how we react to life's challenges. As a wife, I can encourage my husband, but ultimately, his decisions are his, and if I have a problem with a decision, it is ultimately my problem. As a parent, I can encourage my children, and until they reach the age of accountability, they are innocent and blameless. Once they are 8 years old, I can do my best to encourage and mentor them into spiritual, responsible, caring, involved citizens, but again, their decisions are theirs and while I can encourage natural consequences, my influence does not include coersion.
Doesn't it seem so much easier to solve other people's problems rather than your own? I have some life experience, and I've heard from other people how they managed to overcome the same problem. Sometimes, people are even asking for you to help them solve their problems. I believe in encouraging, coaching, and offering support in whatever way you feel comfortable. Ultimately, though they are responsible for themselves, and their problems belong to them so that they can learn a lesson from it. There is a great book called, I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better. I highly recommend it to anyone who feels responsible for anyone else's problems. ebooks.ebookmall.com/ebook/117989-ebook.htm
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